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I want to move out of home, but cannot aford a flat, and am not good at cooking have never lived alone or anything but want to try. we have a caravan in our back yard, which has a shower, toilet, fridge, kitchen, cooker etc, and would be far enough away from my parents with out being too far, so If I did nearly burn the caravan down they could help. does anyone think i'm weard for wanting to be semiindependent? I'd have my dla, and pay mum a small amount of rent for the van. i'd also buy my own food, and learn to manage my money. I hope to hear from you all soon. phil.
Dear Phil,
I don't think you are weird. I can't cook or clean well either, and I wanna move out on my own. Well, that was until I realized I couldn't just yet. I am moving in to a place with my mom so she can help me get on my feet and all. It's not weird. I understand where you are coming from. You wanna live on your own, but it's hard to when you can't manage your house and all. Just be patient. You'll get to that point eventually.
Yours truly,
Jacqueline.plac
Hey Phil, your not weird. I also wanted to move out like a long time ago. But there just a lot of things that is stoping me. Like I don’t have much money for my education, since I’m going to college at this time and I need there help to pay for it. I can manage myself I can cook and clean and do stuff around the house but I just don’t have much money to move out and besides I will miss my sisters even though we fight sometimes. Well I agree with Jacqueline. We need to have patience. Well some of the reasons to why I wanted to move out is more independence and freedom, and the fact that your parents can’t tell you to do whatever they want you to do. But moving out comes with a lot of responsibilities. I was thinking like a long time ago. If I move what will happen if everything is going toward me like the pile of bills. My cell phone, the internet conection, the food supply, things for the house, water bill. And if I pay the rent for the place then. What if I had to buy books for college oh men its just a lot. Its hard to pay everything even though you have a job. But theres a good side to it. When your on your own, then your free to do whatever you please. Everything is your decision and the outcome maybe good or bad but one thing remains its all your decisions. Think aobut this first before doing any planning. Take care
Cassandra.
Hey Phil, your not weird. I also wanted to move out like a long time ago. But there just a lot of things that is stoping me. Like I don’t have much money for my education, since I’m going to college at this time and I need there help to pay for it. I can manage myself I can cook and clean and do stuff around the house but I just don’t have much money to move out and besides I will miss my sisters even though we fight sometimes. Well I agree with Jacqueline. We need to have patience. Well some of the reasons to why I wanted to move out is more independence and freedom, and the fact that your parents can’t tell you to do whatever they want you to do. But moving out comes with a lot of responsibilities. I was thinking like a long time ago. If I move what will happen if everything is going toward me like the pile of bills. My cell phone, the internet conection, the food supply, things for the house, water bill. And if I pay the rent for the place then. What if I had to buy books for college oh men its just a lot. Its hard to pay everything even though you have a job. But theres a good side to it. When your on your own, then your free to do whatever you please. Everything is your decision and the outcome maybe good or bad but one thing remains its all your decisions. Think aobut this first before doing any planning. Take care
Cassandra.
No your not weerd! I wunt to move out some times, as I'm only 15 I don't think it wood work I think it wood be a good practis for when you do get your own flat. All the best
Tracey
Well I'm moving out. It's going to be a large learning curve. as has already been said, yes there's alot of responsibility. But on the other hand, there's also alot of reward to. No harm in it at all. I'd say go for it.
Well I'm moving out. It's going to be a large learning curve. as has already been said, yes there's alot of responsibility. But on the other hand, there's also alot of reward to. No harm in it at all. I'd say go for it.
Some people just like having their own space where they can be by themselves and be themselves. This is not weird and even if it is, being weird is not bad or wrong.
precisely. gives you a chance to expand. gives you an oppertunity to do things for yourself. Because you have to because there aint nobody there to do it for you.
thanks for all that! now I don't feel so weard, and surer about what i am going to do. thank you!
phil
Well, consindering the fact that it looks as though I'mthe only poster who is NOT still living at home....
I have lived on my own for nearly nine months, and I gotta say it's been the best nine months of my life! I love my parents, don't get me wrong, but sometimes you get the urge to just risk everything, and that's what I did, risking my entire life savings and moving 750 miles from home without a job. It was equal parts scary and exciting. When I first moved out, the only things I knew how to make were pasta dishes and easy things in the microwae... now I still know how to make pasta dishes and easy things in the microwave, but at this moment I have chicken and potatos baking in the oven (Lunch sounds WONDERFUL right about now). THere are people who live on their own, or with their spouse or whatever, who can cook and are good at it. I know one of those people, and I've learned more about cooking and saving money on groceries from her in the past nine months than from anyone else in the past 20 years.
Truthfully, though, people say it's a responsibility, and it is, but there are way more benefits. So long as you document how much money you have and how much money you spend per month, then you can make petter informed choices about what you want/need to spend money on.
that's what I want to learn about. I need to know how to manage my money, how to cook and stuff.
i left home pretty much as soon as i could and i have never regretted that choice. i wouldn't have it any other way. i love my family but i certainly don't want to see them every 5 minutes and have them watching my every move.
philippa i wish you every luck with the moving out experiment.
yup me to. where abouts in the UK are you?
Essex. hehehehe. jk
lol yeah dan you are a tru essex boy lol
thanks, I live in bedfordshire.
Well, you know ... I woudl just try it. If you are not too good at cooking, you will get expewrience by trying. And everything else sounds good so ... I can only say, good luck.
Hi Phil, I moved out of home as soon as I finished College 12 years ago. I just felt I couldn't go home. It's the best thing I ever did. you have a happy medium there, a home away from home, where you can learn. Take the opportunity, and enjoy it. Remember there are a lot of us around who will help when you have questions. Best of luck.
to right, there's tond of people who can help, you aren't alone
thanks everyone. I feel much more secure about this now I have spoken to you all. thanks.
Wow! I'm so happy for you!!! I'm glad that you are taking the first steps towards becoming as independent as you can possibly be. I've always wanted to be on my own and now that I am, I love every minute of it!!! Best of luck to you!!!
*sexy*
I think it's a great idea, Philippa. Are there any centres around your area that will teach you daily living skills such as cooking & cleaning? You could go to one of those as well but being semi-independent is a big first step. Good luck!!
hi. thanks everyone, there arn't any centres like that round hear, I was kind of reliying on my mum to teach me, or picking things up my self. one of those centres would be useful though. o well, that's what comes of living in a dead end lol!
I think you're weird because you want to live in a caravan and that's what travelers and jipsies.
Philippa, I think your idea is an excellent first step. You get all the advantages of being independent with a "safety net" still attached, if you need it.
thanks Susanne, thats how I thought of it too.
I moved out on my own right after highschool, and haven't regretted it. Sure there are times when things get rough, but the test is whether or not you can pull through. There are a lot of responsibilities, as most have said, but a lot of rewards too. *smile* I can tell you this, I knew very little about financial matters, my own anyways, and cooking, but I learned, and you can if your not afraid to try.
well it's a case of having to isn't it really. or will be.
once you learn those skills, you'll be ready for a place of your own. If you don't know how to do around the house kind of things, ask someone to teach you them.
see, at first, moving out is scarry. to me, even libing in a dorm is kinda scarry.
I can not do everything around the house either and I still want to move out. I mean sure I can cook all right, but for example cleaning ... wooh, shivers - but I will learn it soon. I r ather learn all these things now than living with my controlling parents all the time.
Good luck Phil! Have you moved into the caravan yet? How does your family feel about this? I think moving into the caravan is a good first step. I moved out right after highschool, lived in the dorms at first and later moved in with my then boyfriend now husband. It was scary in the beginning, but if you have a good head on your shouldirs you can learn. Don't let little kitchen accidents discourage you. Start small with microwave meals, and move up gradually. If your mother is a good cook, you have a better start than I did. *smile* Feel free to ask for more advice. You can contact me privately too.
Good luck Philippa. I'm like you really, want to move out of home but I've only enough money for about three or four months living in a rented flat, then I'd have to move back home again as I'm not working yet, I can't cook a lot of different things, though I'm practicing with my talking microwave right now, I can sort of clean up after myself and everything though, so I'm almost ready to fly the nest. Biggest barrier is money for me.
Good luck Philippa. I'm like you really, want to move out of home but I've only enough money for about three or four months living in a rented flat, then I'd have to move back home again as I'm not working yet, I can't cook a lot of different things, though I'm practicing with my talking microwave right now, I can sort of clean up after myself and everything though, so I'm almost ready to fly the nest. Biggest barrier is money for me.
This is a bit off topic, but I'm really curious to know why people write multypul replies. Could they possibly think we're not inteligent enough to understand what they meant the first time we read their post, or is it their big ego that wants more space? Again, just curious.
I'd appreciate an honest answer without flaming.
No idea. It's a small but annoying little problem on The Zone.
So, here's another question: as a teenager, or older, what types of housework and/or chores and responsibilities did you have? For example, I'd think that an 18-year-old with sheltered parents who cannot properly wash their own clothes or cut their dinner food would have a harder time than someone who was brought up on independence at a young age.
Belatrix, you wrote a multypul reply on this topic, so how come you have no idea? Did you do it by mistake maybe?
As for the main topic here, I wish my parents taught me more before I moved out. It would have made things easier and less scary for me in the beginning. In some cases blind people are so sheltered they're afraid to leave, and they stay with their parents for years and years after they grow up. I think that's really sad.
good luck phil, it's kay by the way, and to wayne, okay, gypsies and people may live like this, but one thing's for surel, phil ain't a gypsy, so don't go saying that shit again. i think it's cool that your parents have a caravan and wish i had an opportunity to do like you're doing before i get a flat, i wish you every success with it. have you got a social worker or anything? i have and they can teach you how to cook and stuff.